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Sam Blay

Headshot of Sam Blay, a Momé founder and editor, with long wavy brown hair and a black t-shirt, smiling on a white sofa.

Sam Blay is a contributor at Momé and the founder of SB Photography, where she's built a loving community of mothers behind her camera. A young mom to her two boys, she writes and edits with the same warmth she brings to every shoot, capturing the truth of motherhood without the filter. Sam brings a voice to Momé that every mom wants to hear.

Articles

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Identity

The Mother You Didn't Expect to Be — and Why That's Okay

Most women picture the mother they'll be: patient, present, the one who never yells. Then they meet their actual children. The gap between the mother you imagined and the one you are — and why that's okay.

A couple sit close together on a bed with a breakfast tray, as he gently holds her hand to his lips and she smiles softly toward him.
Identity

The Couple You Were and the Parents You've Become: Navigating Relationship Identity After Baby

They still loved each other — they had just stopped being the people who knew how to show it. What the research shows about couples after a baby, and what the ones who make it through do differently.

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What Matters

Maternal Health Block Grant: What It Is, Why It Matters, and What's Happening to It

Mass layoffs at HRSA have left Title V — the block grant funding maternal and child health services in all 50 states — functionally unstaffed. What's at stake, and what states are doing.

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What Matters

WIC Benefits Are Being Slashed: Here's What That Means for Your Table

The proposed FY27 budget would cut WIC's fruit and vegetable benefits by 75% for breastfeeding mothers and 62% for young children — the first benefit cut in the programme's 50-year history.

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Identity

What Your Pre-Baby Interests Are Still Telling You About Who You Are

The things you loved before the baby aren't gone or outdated — they're diagnostic information about who you still are. Why they go dormant, and how to find your way back.

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Identity

The Invisible Emotional Labor: What the Mental Load Really Costs a Mother's Sense of Self

The mental load isn't exhaustion — it's identity. What the invisible cognitive labour of running a household really costs a mother's sense of self, and why redistributing systems is what actually works.

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Identity

Staying at Home Is a Choice. Why Does It Still Feel Like It Needs an Explanation?

One in four American mothers chose to step away from paid work — and the culture still treats it as provisional. The identity work nobody discusses, and what the women who carry it most gracefully know.

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Business & Career

I Didn't Go Back to Work After Baby: How I Rebuilt My Career Three Years Later

Mothers who took multi-year career gaps on what re-entry actually required — the identity work, the imposter syndrome nobody warned them about, and the discovery that their skills never left.

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Business & Career

Mompreneurs Who Sold: What It Looked Like, What It Was Worth

A wave of mother-founded brands has reached acquisition. What it takes to build a sellable business, what acquirers really look for, and what founders who sold wish they'd known.

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Essentials

Is the Solly Baby Wrap Worth It? An Honest, Evidence-Based Review

A single piece of TENCEL modal, five and a half yards long — the honest, research-informed case for the baby wrap that belongs on every thoughtful registry.

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Business & Career

How to Start a Business on $500 or Less

You don't need venture capital or a pitch deck. The four models that work on $500 or less, the infrastructure every founder needs from day one, and the grant money most people never claim.

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Business & Career

How Black Mothers Are Building Out of Necessity — and Winning

Over 300,000 Black women left the US workforce in 2025 — and new Black women-owned businesses grew 13%, faster than any group in America. This isn't coincidence. It's adaptation.

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Essentials

The 12 Pieces Every New Mom Is Actually Buying Right Now

You don't need a new wardrobe — you need 12 pieces that meet your body where it is. The postpartum capsule, with a splurge and an under-$50 pick for each.

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Parenting

How to Talk to Your Child About Death

A developmental roadmap for one of parenthood's hardest conversations — the words that help, the euphemisms that quietly harm, and how to tell the truth in a way that builds resilience.

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Features · Pregnancy & Postpartum

Rachel Abugov on 99 Days in the NICU, and the Daughter Who Made Her a Mother

A first-time mother on the birth she didn't plan, the daughter who arrived fifteen weeks early, and what 99 days inside the NICU taught her about love, fear, and strength.

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Nourish

What to Eat in a Day While Breastfeeding

A realistic, zero-prep daily guide — from the 7am feed to the 3pm slump, the wholesome meals built for the lived experience of nursing, not an unattainable wellness ideal.

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Pregnancy & Postpartum

How to Prepare Your Home for a Baby: A Real Mom's Room-by-Room Guide

A room-by-room guide to nesting and baby prep — the postpartum recovery station, feeding zone, and stocked freezer that actually matter in the first weeks home.

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Pregnancy & Postpartum

How Your Skin Changes During Pregnancy

A hormonal field guide to the glow, the melasma, the breakouts, and everything else nobody warned you about — plus which ingredients are safe and which to skip.

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Parenting

How to Set Up a Montessori Home on Any Budget

Montessori at home in any space, on any budget — lower the shelves, rotate the toys, involve them in real life. The aesthetic is optional; the principles are not.

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Nourish

I'm Starting Solids With My 6-Month-Old and I'm Scared. Here's Everything You Actually Need to Know.

The difference between gagging and choking, the foods to avoid until age four, how to introduce allergens early — and everything you need to start solids with confidence.

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Parenting

How to Handle Toddler Tantrums

Tantrums are not bad behaviour — they are brain events. Why they happen, what helps during the storm, what to do after, and the prevention strategies that quietly reduce them.

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Pregnancy & Postpartum

12 Truths About How Pregnancy Changes Your Relationship

Pregnancy reshapes your relationship in ways no one warns you about. Twelve honest truths about what shifts between partners — plus the scripts to talk about it before the silence sets in.

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Essentials

Postpartum Essentials for Mom: The Real Truth of What You Actually Need

Most postpartum shopping lists are written by brands. This one is written by mothers — the recovery products, clothing, and self-care that actually carry you through the first twelve weeks.

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Pregnancy & Postpartum

Do You Really Need a Birth Plan? What No One Tells You.

The honest answer is yes to both — useful and a setup for disappointment — depending on how you write one. What belongs in a birth plan that actually helps you advocate, and how to plan for the birth you didn't expect.

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Parenting

How to Build a Daily Routine for Babies and Toddlers That Actually Sticks

Start with bedtime, add the morning anchor, skip the rest. The cue-based, clock-flexible approach that works for the life you actually live.

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Essentials

What to Pack in Your Hospital Bag

A real mom's tested checklist for labor, postpartum, baby, and a c-section — plus the 8 things to leave at home.

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Wellness

Losing Yourself in Motherhood? The Identity Shift Nobody Prepares You For

Becoming a mother isn't adding a role to your life — it's becoming a different person. This is the part of motherhood the world forgets to warn you about.

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Nourish

10 Homemade Puree Recipes for Starting Solids (6+ Months)

Ten essential single-ingredient purees for your baby's first tastes — the tools you need, how to introduce foods safely, and a simple way to batch-freeze.

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Parenting

9 Parenting Books Actually Worth Your Time

An honest edit of the books that change how you parent — from newborn classics to the new releases reshaping discipline, screens, and the teenage years.

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Essentials

14 Things New Moms Actually Need for Postpartum

The recovery products new moms actually use, what's worth buying, what's a waste, and the under-$30 versions of the cult favourites.

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